Gay+Adoptions



A child’s primary role models are his or her parents. Bringing a heterosexual child up in a gay household gives them a distorted view of minority sexuality, just as a girl brought up by two men would fail to benefit from a feminine influence and vice versa. Placing a child too young to have an opinion of their own in the care of a gay couple exposes them to this prejudice, and subjects them to ridicule or violence. Whatever ideal we might have, the psychological and physical welfare of the child must come first. It would further weaken the traditional family values essential to our society. The building blocks of our society and the thing that makes it strong is the traditional family of man, woman, and children. It is what has sustained us through two world wars, a great depression, and numerous other challenges over the centuries. While friends & lovers come and go, your family is always there. The main reason our culture and values have started to crumble is the weakening of families. Introducing another form of "family" would only make the situation worse.

Pros of Same Sex Adop tions Children who are adopted by same sex parent get all the same right and benefits as children who are brought up in a heterosexual house hold. In the statement above it states that " Bringing a heterosexual child up in a gay household gives them a distorted view of minority sexuality, just as a girl brought up by two men would fail to benefit from a feminine influence and vice versa." I believe that this statement is opinionated because there are children being raised by one sole parent and many people do not have a problem with that. when being raised by a "sole" parent that means you have either a mother or a father not both this is well way worse then having two parents of the same sex. If same sex couples or homosexual people would be able to adopt through out the world there would be far less children in adopt homes and living on the street.

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 * || **Adoption of Children by Same Sex Couples** ||
 * **Summary:** Should gay couples be given the same legal rights as heterosexuals in adopting children? ||  ||   || [[image:http://www.idebate.org/images/print.gif link="@http://www.idebate.org/debatabase/topic_print.php?topicID=51"]] || print this page ||
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 * || **Author:**Eliot Jones ( Tunisia ) Eliot Jones is a freelance communications consultant.
 * Created:** Friday, October 27, 2000


 * Last Modified:** Monday, May 18, 2009 ||


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 * || At present, the world and individual countries are as divided with regard to adoption as to other area of gay rights. As of 2000, four states in the USA (Arkansas, Florida, Mississippi and Utah) have specifically outlawed gay adoption, as have some Scandinavian countries (Denmark, Norway, and Iceland) that show an otherwise lenient attitude to same-sex relationships. By contrast, the National Adoption Week in the UK in October 2000 saw a drive to encourage gay couples to adopt, in order to find homes for the thousands of children seeking parents. The 2002 Adoption and Children Act allowed unmarried couples in England and Wales, including same sex partners to apply for adoption jointly. ||


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 * Society is changing, and the traditional idea of the nuclear family with married mother and father is no longer the only acceptable alternative. The reason that many countries are beginning to award legal rights to gay couples is because the stability of such relationships is now recognised. There is no reason, therefore, why such couples cannot provide a stable and loving upbringing for children. ||  || The traditional nuclear family is still an ideal that should be clung to. Where its breakdown is inevitable, a close substitute, with maternal and paternal influences, is the only alternative. Evolution and nature has shown that the natural development of the young is aided by both these influences. Research in the US (Univ. of Illinois Law Review, 1997) finds that children raised in homosexual househoulds are significantly more likely to be gay themselves. ||
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 * Nature has shown in many species that, when one or both parents die, an uncle or aunt frequently takes on the child-rearing role. ||  || While exceptions occur, the norm in nature is that offspring are nurtured by mother and father. To legally allow adoption by gay couples is to encourage what is an unnatural upbringing. ||
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 * Some babies are born with a predisposition to homosexuality (both human and in other races), and their upbringing will not be affect their sexuality. Attempting to suppress this genetic predisposition has resulted in great misery for many people. Rather, we should accept this and look to embrace all gay people fully – which must include celebrating gay role models, especially as responsible parents. ||  || A child’s primary role models are his or her parents. Bringing a heterosexual child up in a gay household gives them a distorted view of a minority sexuality, just as a girl brought up by two men would fail to benefit from a feminine influence. ||
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 * In many cases, children are currently being responsibly reared by gay couples, where one of the partners is a biological parent. Allowing adoption by the other merely confers legal rights on an already successful, if informal, family model. ||  || While the law should not penalise gay relationships, it also exists to encourage the nuclear family as the ideal for child-raising. Just as married couples receive tax benefits and unmarried mothers may suffer cuts in welfare, legal prohibition of adoption by gays is a natural step towards this ideal. ||
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 * The homophobia in some sections of society is wrong, and must be fought however possible. Couples from ethnic minorities are not barred from adoption even in racist areas. Only through the full inclusion of gays in society and all its institutions can we hope to overcome prejudice. ||  || Homophobic language and behaviour is still common in society. Placing a child too young to have an opinion of their own in the care of a gay couple exposes them to this prejudice, and subjects them to ridicule or violence. Whatever ideal we might have, the psychological and physical welfare of the child must come first. ||
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 * || This House would allow gay couples to adopt children

This House would explode the nuclear family

That homosexuality should be no bar to adoption ||

//Guest post submitted by// [|//DesArcMusician//] > > I want to say this carefully because I do not want to foster any confusion. I am a minister. I am a minister with basic conservative beliefs. I believe that homosexual conduct is wrong. I believe that the Bible teaches that marriage is between one woman and one man, for life. I believe the Bible is the inerrant, perfect word of God. > The debate that has been raging in our state has been whether or not openly homosexual couples should be able to adopt or foster parent children. There is no easy answer to this, but I part with many of my brethren when I say that the answer should //not// be a stern “NO!” Here are my three reasons: >> 1) While I believe the Bible teaches that persons who participate in homosexual behavior are living a lifestyle of sin, I also believe that they are living no more of a sinful lifestyle than heterosexuals who have been divorced. I have observed some divorced heterosexual parents who are the most loving parents in the world. Therefore, I believe it is possible to live a sinful lifestyle and still show love to another person. It would still be preferable not to live that sinful lifestyle. >> 2) There are many children out there who need to be adopted. There are not enough caring heterosexual couples to fill all of these adoptive parent roles. Here on earth, we often have to choose the lesser of two evils. We often have to say to ourselves, “well this is not the optimum choice, but it sure is a lot better than the other choice.” Many adopted children come out of situations of neglect and abuse. In those cases, I say that having a homosexual couple as an adoptive family is preferable to having a family that is full of abuse and neglect. Children always come first with me. >> 3) Finally, I think there should be more stringent regulations and stipulations on all couples wishing to adopt. Unfortunately, I have heard stories of way too many heterosexual couples that were allowed to adopt only to hear of the abuse continuing with that adoptive couple. There are some who are in favor of what they call limited homosexual adoption rights. I say there should be limited adoption rights all the way across the board. Let me again say that I do not support homosexual conduct. I believe the Bible teaches against it. I also believe that the Bible teaches the church to protect the little ones before we go around on our high horses condemning sin. Unfortunately, this world has fallen so hard that sometimes we may have to choose the lesser of two evils in order to protect children. I have no problem with this. > What would happen if a church decided to offer a helping hand to adoptive homosexual parents? What would happen if, instead of screaming at the top of our lungs for what we stand against, we got on our knees and prayed for what we stand for? Jesus never screamed. He always loved. He never criticized. He always served. May we strive to be more like Jesus in this fallen world. > What are your thoughts on homosexual couples adopting children or becoming foster parents? >
 * ====[|A Conservative Christian's Views on Gay Adoption]====